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How to engage in better conversations with your children; expert advice


Conversations don’t come so easily and even more so with children if you don’t share an emotional connection with them. Like adults, children also crave company and love to have conversations, but sometimes they can worry about being misunderstood by parents. (Also read: 6 ways to love your grandparents and make them feel special)

To start conversations with your children and understand what’s going on in their creative and imaginative world, you must first think from their perspective and put them at ease. Although being an authority figure makes it a bit difficult for parents, developing a friendly equation from an early age could be extremely beneficial for their emotional development.

Ritu Rahul Rathod, Creative Writing and Communications Coach and Founder – Moonlight Musings shares some effective communication tips for parents with HT Digital.

“From birth, warm, gentle and responsive communication helps babies and children feel secure in their world. It also builds and strengthens relationships between children and their parents and guardians. To grow and develop skills, children need security and strong relationships, so communicating well with children is essential for development,” says Rathod.

Here are a few tips:

1. Give your child your full attention when communicating with each other.

2. Encourage your child to talk to you about what he feels and thinks.

3. Listen and respond sensitively to all sorts of topics – good news, angry situations, embarrassment, sadness, fear and anything and everything.

4. Focus on his body language and tone as well as his words so you can truly empathize with your child.

5. Use your own body language to show that you are interested in what your child wants to share with you.

6. Consider what your child can understand and how long they can stay attentive.

7. Ask non-judgmental questions that demand real answers.

8. Notice the small conversation openers.

9. Don’t jump to solutions and advice.

10. Incorporate “us time” with your child into your routine.

11. Try not to respond with anger, disdain, sarcasm, or emptiness.

12. Stay available.